White Matter vs. Gray Matter

Men and Women possess two different types of brains, designed equally for intelligent behavior. Men have approximately 6.5 times as much gray matter as women. Women have almost 10 times as much white matter that men do. Information-processing centers are located in gray matter. The connections or networks among these processing centers are composed of white matter. These differences explain why men tend to excel in tasks involving gray matter local processing - like mathematics - while women excel at integrated and assimilating information from gray matter regions, required for language skills, because of their abundance of connecting white matter.

This physical difference in our brain composition helps explain why we communicate so differently. A woman's brain is busy connecting everything. The more she cares about something, the more she connects it to other things going around in her brain.

For example, when she sees a movie or visits a friend, she may have a lot to say about it. meanwhile a guy may have nothing to say unless the movie happens to hit a particular area of interest. She assumes that he does not want to talk about the movie, but he actually has little to say. With this new insight, she can be assured that he is interested in hearing what she has to say, even though he has little to offer in return. When a women gives up expecting her partner to talk more, not only does he appreciate her willingness to talk, but gradually begins to share more

When men have little to say, women often take it
personally, as if he doesn't want to share.

This same idea applies to asking a man about his day or trip he has taken. When he has little to say, he is not intentionally hiding what happened; he just doesn't think much about it, and as a consequence he doesn't remember much. She looks forward to explaining how everything connects. The process of communicating actually helps her reduce stress, while it has little benefit for him.